Where is tomorrow in your marital relationship?
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“While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease” (Genesis 8:22). “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap” (Galatians 6:7). These scriptures imply that virtually everything you do in life is a seed.
If the things you do are positive, they will definitely yield positive results in future. If you live a life of negativities, your wonderful results await you. The situation is the same in marital relationship.
You must consider tomorrow before taking any step or action because everything you do is a seed with a harvest time, waiting for you tomorrow. Having sexual intercourse with someone who is not legally married to you is a seed.
What are the prospective harvests? If you are married, you could attract a scandal that could damage your reputation (if you have any), affect your career negatively, reduce your value before your spouse and children (if any), limit your greatness prospects, possibly attract infirmity, sickness and diseases, produce a child outside wedlock and distort your family structure, attract avoidable conflicts and enemies who may be interested in the same sin partner, possibly attract your untimely death, lack of peace, and above all, make you God’s enemy. Do you desire any of these situations for your tomorrow? If you are unmarried, the situation is equally undesirable.
Having sex with someone before marriage does not secure marriage ticket from that person. So, do you crave for a tomorrow of heartbreak, pregnancy outside marriage, single parenthood, avoidable sickness and diseases, untimely death, delayed marriage and above all, enmity with God?
Where is tomorrow in your marital relationship? You encourage your single daughter or son to indulge in a life of fornication and conspire to cover this sin from your spouse to avoid rebuke.
Result is waiting for you tomorrow. At an old age when you are supposed to be a proud mother or father of a happily married son or daughter, you will be busy with the job of a nanny for a grandchild, whose paternity may be under contention.
How about your spouse discovering about what you have been doing and hating you so that your marital relationship gets damaged? How about that child hating you in future for misguiding him or her and limiting his or her possibilities of success in life? Consider tomorrow before you do the things you do in marriage.
Have you been stealing money from your husband because of the level of trust he has for you, and using the money to finance a certain stranger pastor, prophet or some unprofitable project? Maybe you are even building your own house somewhere or financing another man with his money.
Listen! By the time you wreck your husband and his business, your children would have grown up and you both would have advanced in age. When the man eventually discovers, he could even kill you for toiling with his destiny and wasting his life.
Besides, the investment that would have been achieved for a happy retirement for both of you would have been lost. For someone who had a child outside wedlock before marriage and did not tell the partner about it, what is on your mind? Do you intend to wish away something that is a living and growing human being?
There is no offence that cannot be forgiven when Christ is involved in a relationship. If you are this person, the earlier you give your spouse this information about the child you had before marriage, the more peaceful the future will be for you. As a single mother, in the presence of your daughter, you allow different kinds of strange men to visit you, and even caress your body.
You are preparing your daughter for professional prostitution tomorrow. Are you someone that lies to your spouse and children and defrauds the government or your company to pay your children’s school fees? Do you hire people to write exams for your children? You are breeding a generation of fraudsters, liars and cheats.
The implication is that at your retirement age when you are supposed to be resting, you should get ready for police cases, court cases and all manner of troubles. That is, if the children do not eventually kill you for ritual money. Are you sowing seeds of discord between your children and your blood relatives or neighbours because you consider them inferior in status today? You are preparing a battlefield for your children after your death, thereby exposing them to danger tomorrow.
Are you denying responsibility for a child that you had outside marriage, just to shy away from today’s responsibilities and protect a pride that you have already lost? Let me remind you that the child is a potential President or President’s wife.
Imagine your life of poverty at old age despite the fact that you have a very wealthy child that you had abandoned or denied at tender age. You are in a premarital relationship and it is your mother, father, sister or anty that is dictating what you do in this relationship. You are even depending on him or her to dictate who you should or should not marry.
You must get ready for external control or influence on your marriage after wedding. Do you physically assault your spouse in presence of your children? Get ready to settle quarrels between your children and their spouses when they get married. Consider tomorrow in your pre-marital relationships.
There is a difference between ‘My ex-lover’ and ‘My WICKED ex-lover’. In every relationship, sow the seed of love and good report. Even the scenario of “I planned to marry you but I have changed my mind” can still be done peacefully. Don’t plant a seed of hatred, bitterness, emotional, psychological torment or physical assault, just because you intend to break a premarital relationship. There is a tomorrow.